Looking for a personal growth experience? Author and mental health counselor Abby Seixas is in Chicago this week and she is offering two events:
Thursday, June 24 at Flourish Studios, 3020 N Lincoln, Chicago
Friday, June 25 at the AAP Conference, Techny Towers, Northbrook
Abby was kind enough to share some of her work with this blog community……
In her "Deep River" women's groups and in her book, Finding the Deep River Within, mental health counselor Abby Seixas offers six core practices for bringing more sanity and soul to women's lives. Practice number four, discussed below, is about working with the inner voice of perfectionism to tame our self-expectations.
What Is the "Deep River"?
Beneath the busyness of our daily lives flows a deep river of creativity, passion, silence, and a place of contact with our own wisdom and clarity. This "deep river within" is a powerful antidote to the stress, frenzy, and sheer pace of daily life in our 24/7 culture-if we can find our way to this rich inner resource. One important practice that can help is taming our self-expectations.
Work with the Inner Voice of
Most of us, whether we're aware of it or not, are measuring ourselves and our lives according to some picture we have of "how it's supposed to be." When our expectations are too high or are held too tightly, the resulting pressure can make us feel driven, fragmented, and cut off from ourselves and others, not to mention unhappy. When we have too many expectations of who we should be or what we should do, we chain ourselves to the treadmill of endless striving and doing. By lightening up on demands we put on ourselves, we not only allow for a more flexible, creative approach to life, but we begin to create an inner environment that is more friendly toward balance, depth, and ease. Some methods for lightening up:
To learn more about Abby and Finding the Deep River Within, please visit: http://www.deepriverwithin.com.
Cathy Adams is a certified parenting coach, yoga instructor and mother to three girls.
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